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Book Review & Giveaway: “Mommy, Mama, and Me” and “Daddy, Papa, and Me”

March 18, 2011 by Sarah

 

Please note: while comments on this post continue to be welcome, the giveaway is now over.

Leslea Newman published Heather Has Two Mommies in 1989, at a time when there were hardly any books showing family diversity. The book raised hackles and inspired attacks on Leslea by social conservatives and the religious right; Heather has been on the banned book list every year since its publication.

Heather sent the message to kids who were different (because they had two moms, step parents, adopted siblings, or a single parent) that their lives were just as normal as kids in traditional families. “The most important thing about a family,” Leslea told us in Heather, “is that all the people in it love each other.”

Leslea has never stopped writing (she has written 60 books to date), and her latest books, Mommy, Mama, and Me and Daddy, Papa, and Me, are a testament to her commitment to helping kids in gay and lesbian families feel just like regular kids. These sweet, simple board books depict a day-in-the-life of a well-loved child, a child like any other, who loves juice and snuggles and playtime and getting tucked in at night by their loving parents.

Through these books, kids with two moms or two dads can see their lives reflected. Kids who are different in any number of ways can see that their differences are not only okay, but something to be celebrated. These books aren’t only for two-mom or two-dad families. They are for all of us, so that we can see—and teach our children to see—that there are lots of ways to be a family. And that means that these books belong in your preschool, in the collection of books you give at baby showers, in your neighborhood library, in your doctor’s office waiting room. Because everyone should be reading these books.

Leslea has generously offered two sets of each book to two of my readers. That means if you win this giveaway, you’ll get both books for your own enjoyment, your preschool, your local library, or your friends or family. Not only that, but they’re autographed by Leslea, which only increases the awesomeness. Please comment below for a chance to win a set of these adorable books (and either leave your email address or friend me on facebook so I can find you if you win).

 

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Many Voices

January 27, 2011 by Sarah

I am honored and thrilled to be blogging for Many Voices.

Many Voices is an online clearinghouse for Christian clergy and congregations who are trying to become more open and welcoming to people on the full spectrum of sexuality and gender.

As I’ve been learning recently, there is a growing, multi-faith movement to welcome LGBT people into American congregations. Religious organizations of all denominations, ranging from the most progressive to the most conservative, are beginning to shift the way that they approach their gay, lesbian, and gender-nonconforming congregants. And Many Voices, who is reaching tens of thousands of clergy members, is one of the agents of this change.

Many Voices executive director Ann Thompson Cook told me that clergy members often long to extend full welcome to LGBT people, but have concerns about how, or simply may not know where, to begin. These clergy who are “supportive but silent” are one of Many Voices’s target audiences, and at Many Voices they can find a space for resource sharing, discussion, and learning how to open up their congregations to a broader range of people.

Thompson Cook told me their research shows that young peoples’ distress is one way to move supportive-but-silent clergy to become public in their support. If a religious tradition does not welcome (or actively condemns) gay people, they tend to not look too kindly on a boy in a dress. So the fact that I—the Jewish mom of a pink boy—have been called to blog for this group of Christians speaks volumes about the shifts taking place in American religion. My first post is here, and my second here. I will regularly appear on their pages, and I’m eager to see what the response is from their membership.

Please check out their site and let me and Many Voices know what you think!

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TransActive Study Announcement

January 25, 2011 by Sarah

I received this press release today and thought some of you would be interested in participating in TransActive’s study–they’re looking at the effects of family support and acceptance on transgender and gender-nonconforming kids.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Portland, Oregon – January 24, 2011

TransActive Education & Advocacy, a leading national organization serving the needs of transgender and gender non-conforming children, youth and their families is in the beginning stages of conducting a national PRE and POST research study on the impact that affirmation of a child or youth’s gender non-conforming identity or expression has had on the youth and their family. 

The goal of this research is to evaluate the responses and eventually educate others on the effectiveness of providing supportive and affirming care to transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth.

Specifically, we are requesting:

1. A narrative account (min. 500 words) of your child’s emotional, behavioral, and physical health and family and social interactions PRIOR to being affirmed (supported) in their gender identity or gender expression. 

2. A narrative account (min. 500 words) of your child’s emotional, behavioral, and physical health and family and social interactions AFTER being affirmed (supported) in their gender identity or gender expression. 

It would be helpful to our study if you included an account of changes you’ve observed in any of the following areas: (This is completely optional, and at your discretion) 

Behavior 
Personality 
Self-esteem 
Emotions / Mood 
Relationships 
Health 
School performance 
Socialization
Family interactions 

This is an ongoing study and there is no current deadline for submissions. 

To Participate:

Share your narrative account in whichever format works best for you (plain text, Word, etc.) by sending them to TransActive by email or postal mail. 
Please enter “Narrative Account” in the subject line or header and send it to: 

Email: 
research@transactiveonline.org


Postal Mail: 
TransActive Education & Advocacy 
Attn: Sheryl Rindel, LPC, NCC 
1631 NE Broadway 
Ste. 355-T 
Portland, OR  97232 

Your privacy is of the utmost importance to us. While certain generalized details of your narrative may be used in our study or for educational purposes, absolutely no personal or identifying information (including specific geographic locations) will be included in any published research materials. 

If you have any additional questions about this study or research, please don’t hesitate to call our office at 503-252-3000 or email your inquiry to:info@transactiveonline.org


Further Research Participation Opportunities: 
If you would be willing to participating in future surveys and/or interviews for this or other future research projects please indicate your interest when sending your narrative accounts. 

Thank you. 

Jenn Burleton 
Executive Director 
TransActive Education & Advocacy

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