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Operation Marriage Take Two

November 11, 2013 by Sarah

Somehow it escaped my notice that there are two copies of Operation Marriage sitting on my desk waiting to be sent to the readers who won them. (If you saw the mess on my desk, you would understand how this escaped my notice for two years.) The readers never sent me their contact info, and so they never received their books. Let’s try this again.

If you would like to win a free, signed copy of Operation Marriage, please comment below. If you happen to be one of the original winners, let me know and you’ll get your copy. And my apologies.

From my original review, which you can read in full here: “Operation Marriage tells the story of a spunky eight-year-old San Franciscan, Alex, whose best friend shuns Alex because she has lesbian parents. Set during the lead-up to California’s Proposition 8, the ballot measure that ultimately banned same-sex marriage, the story shows the impact that the struggle for marriage equality has on children—not just those from gay families, but on all children who witness the fight.” Click the link to read more.

I’m having a thought (and yes, if you could see my desk, you would find this impressive). And the thought is: Operation Marriage starts with conflict. My book, Jacob’s New Dress, starts with conflict. I love Operation Marriage; I love Jacob’s New Dress. But I don’t love that we need to include conflict in order to have a conversation about two women getting married or a little boy putting on a dress. Yet I know that these books are part of–and indicators of–a cultural change. It is happening. Just like the clearing of my desk is happening. Slowly, steadily, one step forward and two steps back. But it’s happening.

So comment below. And I promise I’ll send you your copy if you win.

-Sarah

 

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Celebrate the Launch of Operation Marriage! Book Review & Giveaway

October 25, 2011 by Sarah

I’m so excited to share this book with you.

Operation Marriage tells the story of a spunky eight-year-old San Franciscan, Alex, whose best friend shuns Alex because she has lesbian parents. Set during the lead-up to California’s Proposition 8, the ballot measure that ultimately banned same-sex marriage, the story shows the impact that the struggle for marriage equality has on children—not just those from gay families, but on all children who witness the fight.

Based on a true story, Operation Marriage offers us universal themes— trust, perseverance, standing up to adversity—but its approach to the particular social challenge of marriage inequality is something I haven’t ever seen in a children’s book. There is power in viewing a problem from a child’s perspective, and much that we grown-ups can learn from looking at the world through Alex’s eyes.

Alex’s parents got married in the slim window that our state allowed them to; others since have not been so lucky. And because I know you’re wondering, ultimately Alex’s best friend comes around in support of Alex’s family. But it happens in a way that makes me cry every single time I read it. Yet no matter how lovely I think this book is, aided by Lea Lyon’s gentle, realistic illustrations, what I really hope is that someday this book  will be become part of dusty history, a quaint reminder of how narrow minded our state—our country—used to be.

The super awesome publisher of Operation Marriage, Reach and Teach—you should check out their other titles, too—is offering an autographed, hardcover copy of the book to one of my readers. Leave a comment below (and be sure to give me a way to get in touch with you by leaving your email address or friending me on facebook) for a chance to win. The winner will be announced Tuesday, the day the book is officially launched.

The national launch of Operation Marriage is next Wednesday, November 2. Local supporters can join the author, illustrator, and publishers at the launch party at Kepler’s in Menlo Park.

Wherever you are, please read and share this important book!

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And the Winner Is….

July 5, 2011 by Sarah

Janice!

Janice will now receive her very own autographed copy of Leslea Newman’s new book, Donovan’s Big Day, courtesy of the author.

(And here’s the glitch in my system: I have three facebook friends named Janice. Would the Janice who posted the winning comment #6 please send me a note on facebook or via email with your address so I can send you Leslea’s awesome book?)

Thanks, all, for playing. And please go out and buy Donovan’s Big Day! 

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