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The Toy Question: Answered

October 14, 2010 by Sarah

So I told you that I’d let you know how McDonald’s responded to my query about gender bias and Happy Meal toys. This is what they said:

Thank you for taking the time to write McDonald’s and to share your thoughts with us about our Happy Meals.
 First, please be assured that none of our toys are meant to be gender-restricted. Rather, all of our toys are meant to be enjoyed by all our younger customers—both girls AND boys.

When we offer a Happy Meal with two different themes, our employees have been specifically trained to ask customers which of the two toys offered that week they would like, and not whether they would like a “girl” toy or a “boy” toy. I’m sorry if you’ve experienced anything different.

Please be assured, we would never want any of our promotions, games or premium items to disappoint our customers. Because you’re a valued customer, your comments are very important to us, and have been shared with our Marketing staff for their on-going review.

Which I thought was really cool.

I wrote back to thank them, and to suggest that some additional employee training may be warranted given how often we hear reports of the question “Girl toy or boy toy?” when a parent orders a Happy Meal. I encourage you to contact them too. It’s a small act of activism that has the potential to have a lasting impact on the cultural conversation about gender.

Whatever we think about McDonald’s, there is no question that their actions reverberate throughout our culture. The McDonald’s commercial aired this week featuring a gay teen was, according to the Sydney Morning Herald, meant to “recognize the diversity of McDonald’s customers in France.” When a mainstream corporation recognizes diversity of sexuality and gender, we are one step closer to broader cultural recognition and acceptance of our kids.

And, when you write to McDonald’s, don’t forget to tell them how cool they are.

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The Toy Question

October 12, 2010 by Sarah

My friend Nancy was pissed off. She’d just been to McDonald’s to buy her child a Happy Meal, and a server had asked, “Is that for a boy or a girl?”

“Really?” Nancy asked me. “In this day and age, there are boys’ toys and girls’ toys? It just seems so archaic to me that toys are still designated one way and another.”

I was feeling the opposite when, a few weeks ago, we stopped for Happy Meals in a rural California town. The server asked, “Strawberry Shortcake or Star Wars?” Sam and Ruby picked Strawberry Shortcake; Sam gave his to Ruby, saying “I wanted the Star Wars, but it was a skateboard, and there are no skateboards in Star Wars.” You just never know what a kid is going to want.

Nancy was bothered that McDonald’s hands out gendered toys—and that they assume a boy would want a “boy” toy and a girl would want a “girl” toy. I don’t have a problem with toys being masculine or feminine. Most kids have some sort of gender expression—often it goes with their biological gender, but sometimes, as you know, it doesn’t. So why not let kids choose their toys based on their own gender expression, rather than their biological gender?

Being the agitator that I am, I emailed McDonald’s to ask what their corporate policy is on asking The Toy Question. Are employees instructed to say “Girl or boy?” or to refer to the toys by name? Because how they ask makes all the difference. I’ll let you know what their response is, but in the mean time, why don’t you email them too?

Today the world is abuzz about a French McDonald’s ad featuring a gay teenager and the tagline, “Come as you are.” McDonald’s, thank you. And if you start to ask The Toy Question right, even more kids will feel like they can come as they are.

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