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Be Who You Are: Book Review & Giveaway

January 16, 2011 by Sarah

Be Who You Are cover

While comments on this post are still welcome, the contest is now over.

Be Who You Are is a new book out for transgender kids, written by Jennifer Carr and illustrated by Ben Rumback. Carr was kind enough to send me a copy of the book to give away to one of my readers.

The book tells the story of Nick, a child with a boy’s body who feels like a girl inside. His teachers do not understand—but his parents love him just the way he is. Be Who You Are models what it looks like for a transgender child to have a family who is 100% behind him, who seeks out the care required for children so different from their peers to feel wholly themselves. It’s the story of the self-respect that comes when your parents say, “Be who you are…We love you any way you feel.”

Every family of a transgender child should have this book. (Buy your copy here.) I would like to see Be Who You Are on every school bookshelf, in every public library, in every doctor’s waiting room—all the trusted places kids and parents go—so that children like Nick know that they are not alone. This book will introduce the gender-normative world to the idea that there are trans kids out there, and that there are parents who accept and love them. And it shows trans kids that they are okay, that they are loved, and that they are not alone.

In the end, Nick decides that she wants to be called Hope. Carr says, “When her parents called her Hope, she felt right for the very first time.”

Comment below to enter to win your own copy of Be Who You Are. You’ll need to friend me on facebook or leave your email address in the comments so I can contact you if you win.

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Comments

  1. Keltik says

    January 16, 2011 at 10:42 am

    Y’know, I’d like to see one of these books where it’s a little girl who feels like a boy.

    • Arania says

      January 18, 2011 at 12:23 pm

      I second this. Does anyone know of any books – or other resources – like this?

  2. Rachael says

    January 16, 2011 at 10:58 am

    This looks like a great book! I am ordering a copy for my children, and it would be fantastic if I could win one to give to my children’s school. Something they definately need at the moment.

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:27 pm

      If you don’t win it, ask your school to buy it!

  3. Ilene says

    January 16, 2011 at 12:00 pm

    Thank you for this beautiful resourse. I do bully prevention work in school, and gender harassment/transphobia is the biggest, deepest, and least addressed issue out there. I look forward to adding this book to my toolkit!

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:27 pm

      Wonderful. Thank you for the work that you do.

  4. Ricky says

    January 17, 2011 at 9:49 am

    looks fantastic! would love to have a copy in the office, for both pts. and students/trainees.

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:27 pm

      Great.

  5. damon says

    January 17, 2011 at 10:14 am

    Awesome! Can’t wait to check this book out.

    damon@dmcconsult.net
    http://www.therapistdamon.com

  6. Anna Jacquesdóttir says

    January 17, 2011 at 11:44 am

    Wow.

  7. Melissa says

    January 17, 2011 at 12:42 pm

    Just ordered 3 copies. Can’t wait to read it!

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:27 pm

      Yay! Thank you for spreading the word.

  8. labelsareforjars says

    January 17, 2011 at 2:18 pm

    Would love a copy for my boy and/or his school….will ask them about it this week!

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:29 pm

      Great. I think the more schools hear that parents want these resources, the more they will pay attention to gender issues. It’s an act of activism just to make the request.

  9. Annika says

    January 17, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    Really curious to check this one out; love the growing number of choices! Thanks for sharing it.

  10. Natacha Kennedy says

    January 17, 2011 at 3:31 pm

    By really strange coincidence I think you have come up with the children’s version of my research paper, just published, about transgender children. I think your book says pretty much the same thing as my paper; have a look and see what you think;

    http://www.gjss.org/images/stories/volumes/7/2/3.%20Kennedy%20and%20Hellen.pdf

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:29 pm

      Fantastic, I look forward to reading it.

  11. Stephanie Scott says

    January 17, 2011 at 4:29 pm

    Am always being asked, in my role as chair of a Brighton UK based trans support group, for positive books/info for young trans children. Will certainly get a copy if I don’t win one, in fact I know quite a few UK based groups would like a copy. Maybe I’ll try to spread the word around and hopefully get some orders flowing.

    Agree with Keltic as well, hopefully someone will produce one.

    • shoffman says

      January 18, 2011 at 2:28 pm

      That’s great, thanks for spreading the word!

  12. B W L says

    January 19, 2011 at 6:29 pm

    Would love to get a copy of this book. Thank you so much!

  13. Ellen says

    January 19, 2011 at 9:12 pm

    This looks really interesting. I plan to buy it as a resource for my PFLAG group.

  14. Paul says

    January 19, 2011 at 10:13 pm

    Me too!

  15. Jenn says

    January 20, 2011 at 5:25 am

    So happy to find another great sounding book to help ‘normalise’ the world for my little “boy girl”.

  16. Ernesto says

    January 20, 2011 at 4:44 pm

    Great idea! Where are all the other books like this?

    -Ernesto

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